Online Dating For Single Men

No matter what your age, height, weight or physical appearance, there are thousands of women out there eager to meet you and eager for your company…whether short-term or long-term relationships are what you want. If you have found yourself suddenly “on-the-market” again after a relationship has dissolved or are just too busy with your work to spend a lot of time looking for a lady to keep you company, online dating can open the door to the dating scene for you.

The good news is that all you need is a computer and an internet connection to get started. The first thing to do is find an online dating site that fits your needs. There are the large sites that offer many extras like live video chat and even match you up with ladies using your profiles and, also, a lot of sites that cater to special interests like religious preferences, outdoor enthusiasts, gays, etc. You need to choose one or two that will meet your needs. I don’t recommend the free sites. The paid sites have a money back guarantee if you aren’t satisfied and the investment is small. A whole month costs less than one dinner and movie date.

The next thing you need to do is write a killer, but honest, profile and upload a recent but flattering picture of yourself. Now you are all set. Start contacting ladies whose profiles sound interesting to you and answer any lady who contacts you…and do so promptly…not, however, on holidays or weekends. You don’t want to appear that desperate. Don’t give up after a month and think you will never find the right lady for you. New people join online dating services daily and at least half of them are ladies many, of whom, will want to meet you.

Establishing Online Dating Relationships: Safety First

Online dating can be fun. But don’t neglect safety and common sense when you try to hook up with a mate. At minimum, take caution in the following areas.

Protect Your Computer

Take care of your equipment and systems before you head out into the Internet realm. You need to have a firewall and anti-virus protection for your email and for when you search websites and interact online. At the bare minimum, you may want these two solutions that are offered at no charge to home computer users (i.e. not for commercial use):

Free Firewall Download: ZoneAlarm www.zonelabs.com
Free Anti-Virus Download: AVG Anti-Virus www.grisoft.com

Protect Yourself

Take care of yourself, too, by choosing appropriate dating sites. Seek and choose a reputable online dating service. How? Begin by asking around with friends, neighbors, co-workers and others you may know who have tried online dating, and see which places they recommend. In addition, search “online dating services” and keep a notebook of their URLs or website links, the fees, rules and regulations, complete contact information of each and any other useful information that spikes your interest. Then compare each place. Try only those places where you feel safe. Avoid the others.

So take care. Arm your computer – and yourself- with the correct tools and knowledge!

Don't rush the dating process - build the mystery forcing repells attraction

Again, this goes with keeping busy. Never see a girl more then twice a week for at least the first 10 to 20 dates. Seriously. I know you will want to spend all your time with
someone if you think she's the one, but, you
need to build the attraction, not force it.
This way is best for both of you. I feel most
guys will settle for a girl because she wants
a relationship, even tho she might not be the
girl for him.
Take your time, have fun, date multiple
women, it's ok.

Honesty is REALLY the BEST policy.

When you join an Online Dating service, you are looking for a girl that you can like…even come to love. That girl is looking for a guy that SHE can like or even love.

What you aren’t looking for is a girl who would like your best friend or your idea of what the perfect guy looks like or talks like or thinks like.

So, in order to find the right girl for you… and she IS out there…you need to be completely honest with yourself about yourself when writing the online profile, during the dating process and beyond.

The best way to begin writing your profile is to carefully analyze your past relationship(s).

What was right? What was wrong? What things really made you like the last girl? Which didn’t?

Don’t assume that just because you hated that your last girl was so totally self-involved that she couldn’t see anything else, you’ll be able to overlook that quality this time. You won’t.

If you aren’t 6’1” with a six-pack to be proud of, don’t claim to be. If you are a bar tender, don’t claim to be a lawyer with a six figure income. If you are 40 going on 50, don’t pretend to be 30 something.

Remember, the idea here is to find a girl who will like you exactly like you are. If you have lied in your profile, the first face-to-face meeting will remove all her doubt that you are a liar…and probably a cheat, as well.

Lastly, once you have found a girl that you believe can be the one for you, for goodness sakes, cancel your membership to the Online Dating service.

After all, you know and she knows that Online Dating services are intended for those who are looking…not those who have found or been found.

Use Online Dating.

When the phenomenon of Online Dating sites started several years ago, they were a haven for perverts, sexual predators, nerds, and weirdoes of assorted varieties.

That is just no longer the case.

All the stigma of Online Dating is gone. Online Dating has gone main stream and is, not only acceptable, but expected. Online Dating has become the primary tool of single people of all ages to generate an interesting and rewarding social life.

Let’s face it…we are busy guys. We just simply do not have the time, the energy, or the financial where-with-all to date several nights each week while we look for the “one”.

You can sort through hundreds of profiles in a month for less money than you would spend on one evening out, thus, saving time and money.

We use the Internet to save ourselves time and money for a lot of things like investments, shopping, medical information, and communications.

Why not make use of such a useful tool for our social and personal lives as well? You could find the love of your life. At the very least, you will meet some interesting people and possibly make some lasting friendships. It’s easy to get started.

All you need is a computer and an Internet connection. You’ll need to search for Online Dating services that meet your specific needs. They are many and varied.

Join one or two. Then you’ll need to write a great profile, upload a recent picture of yourself and start making and answering contacts.

That really is all there is to it… that and patience.

Don’t wait any longer to start your new and interesting social life. Miss or Ms. “Right” could be only a few clicks of the mouse away.

Subscribe to these Dating wisdoms.

Finding helpful advice can sure be great for getting and developing dating relationships. So here are words of wisdom to help gentlemen out there seeking more from their dating.

 Drinking and dating don’t necessarily mix. Why? “…there's nothing uglier than a woman who can't handle her liquor!" – JR Ewing, Dallas

 You need to be able to find the milk right in front on the shelf of your refrigerator. And you’ll need to be able to conduct other such “simple” searches.

 “I hate women because they always know where things are.” – James Thurber

 Not all women want to be equal. “Women who seek to be equal with men lack ambition.” – Timothy Leary

 And not all things make sense, especially in relationships. “There is no reciprocity. Men love women, women love children, children love hamsters.” – Alice Thomas Ellis

 Don’t underestimate sex. “Women need a reason to have sex. Men just need a place.” – Billy Crystal

 Age does make a difference, at least in some things. “At the age of eleven or thereabouts women acquire a poise and an ability to handle difficult situations which a man, if he is lucky, manages to achieve somewhere in the later seventies.” – P. G. Wodehouse

 Age matters, to some. “I'd go out with women my age, but there are no women my age.” – George Burns

 It may be all I the asking. “Whether they give or refuse, it delights women just the same to have been asked.” – Ovid

 It’s a zoo out there, like it or not. “Women and cats do as they damned well please, and men and dogs had best learn to live with it.” – Alan Holbrook

 There’s no alternative. “Why can't they invent something for us to marry instead of WOMEN?” – Fred Flintstone

 Or is there? “Women! Can't live with them...pass the beer nuts.” – Norm (Cheers)

 And what they wear might not really matter either. “Women! Ya can't live with 'em and ya can't get 'em to wear skimpy little Nazi outfits.” – Emo Phillips

 Having a good memory might help. “Women remember the first kiss, men remember the last.” – Anonymous

So learn from the wise. Head their advice!

Dating success is actually spelled A-B-C.

Getting back to basics can work wonders in dating relationships. So head back to school and go over the ABC’s of dating.

A is for agreeable and appearance. You need not agree with everything your date says. But act in an agreeable manner.

Bummer, but gruff, loud comments – and sounds (like farts and burping) can scare some women off – fast.

So can unkind, rude, obnoxious, drunk, sexist, racial and mean comments. So act like a gentleman and keep the focus light and easy. And when dating in person and not online, have a neat appearance.

No need for formal attire, but wear clean clothes without rips in them.

B is for body language. Keep the eyes where they need to be, gents. No lewd stares or even quick glances at cleavage – regardless of whether or not the looks are directed at your date or other people. And keep communications open with your arms relaxed, i.e. not crossed and closed.

C is for communications and YES, you need to do this. Unfortunately women don’t drop out of trees into your arms – or most don’t. So you need to get out there, online or off, find them, email, chat, phone or somehow communicate with them.

So back to the basics, gents. And then forward into battle of the sexes!